Practice is Powerful

It is wonderful to learn new things.
It is wonderful to make connections and have insights about things that are important to you. However, insight alone cannot bring the change that you want to see in your life. You have to practice.

Practice has power.

Practice is what brings knowledge and insight from the head to the heart to our bodies. Geneen Roth often says that insight is not enough, you have to take action.  Practicing is action.

Practice Is Power

As it applies to areas where I am passionate; being kind to yourself and having a happy relationship with your body and your food, practice is needed.

You need to practice eating when you are hungry. You need to practice feeling your feelings. You need to practice offering kindness to yourself.  You need to practice being mindful.  You need to practice any new skill you want to be good at.

There is even power in the use of the word practice. It is different than “try this and get it right”. Practice has the attitude of “try it, see how it goes, how it feels, what you learned and what you would do differently next time”.

Did you stumble? That is ok, We are just practicing. 🙂  Practice is a different heart-space, a different mind set.

We will forget to practice. We will screw it up some times. It is all ok. Life gives us so many opportunities to try again.

Breathe and try again.

A million times over.

It doesn’t matter. Keep practicing.  It gets easier. It gets better. Mastery will be built.

Practice is power.

Peaceful Body Project Questions Part 4

Why do I need peace? I just want to be skinny.

I understand.  It is ok to want to be different than you are right now. I have been there. I have been so desperately unhappy with myself that I would do anything to be different and to be skinny NOW. I didn’t want to think, learn, introspect or whatever.

I just needed to be skinny!!!

Being who I was felt intolerable. I don’t know any other words to put to that skin crawling feeling of hating who I was and wanting to be different – but not just any different, skinny different.

It is as if being skinny would some how magically fix my life and I would be happy. Financial concerns would melt away. I would be noticed and loved. Clothes would fit and look perfect. Life would be a breeze. No more struggle, just bliss. I would be special.

I want you to pause and think about your motivation for skinny.

  • How do you think your life will be different?
  • What will being that size bring to you that you don’t have now?
  • What are you wanting it to solve?
  • What are you missing out on life if skinny is a top priority for you?

I know that you may not want to think about this stuff but if you don’t take time to do it, I can almost guarantee you are not going to love you, your body more or have the peace you want when you are “skinny”. It will keep you in that cycle of food obsession, the searching for the  next magic pill and diet, constantly seeking but never finding.

It is possible that maybe you are not ready yet to take on this journey and practice, that is ok. We can all only get here in our own time. When you are tired of the war, tired of the struggle, tired of wanting to be different than the life you have right in front of you – just start shining some kindness to the deepest darkest most hurt-y places in you. Its a great way to start on the path to peace.


Check out the website for more information about the next up coming workshop.  Hope to see you there!!

This is a part 4 in a 4 part series exploring questions around the Peaceful Body Project – happening on 05/31/2015.

Peaceful Body Project Questions Part 3

I’m sorry but I don’t think peace is possible. Why do you think I can change that?

I understand. I have been where I didn’t think peace was possible. There was no way I could trust myself – with decisions around food, with things I wanted to do in life. I hated my stomach (and my whole self at times) and so desperately wanted it to be different. I told myself all kinds of horrible things:

“I’m lazy. Worthless. Undisciplined. Messed up. Gross.”

So many unkind things. This is who I thought I was at my core.

Not. True.

Peace is possible. It takes deliberate effort like anything else you want to accomplish in life.  I have pursued it with a passion.  I have had lots of therapists, teachers and guides to help along the way and I have practiced. Oh the practicing! Again and again and again. I have stumbled and fallen A LOT while trying to find peace. This happens. Its not failure. It is the process. Each stumble is another opportunity to pick yourself up, figure how what happened, adjust if needed and keep going.  Peace with myself is all about progress, not perfection.  I am different than I was last week, last year, last decade and I will progress and be different in the future me. I am making progress in peace and love with who I am in the world.

You can choose. You can choose to stay stuck where you are believing you are not enough or you can figure out how to change that step by step and work to be happier here and now.  Wait until you see the impacts that it has in your life. 😀

At the Peaceful Body Project workshop, we will give you lots of practices to choose from to begin or continue down this path.

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Check out the website for more information about the next up coming workshop.  Hope to see you there!!

This is a part 3 in a 4 part series exploring questions around the Peaceful Body Project – happening on 05/31/2015.

Peaceful Body Project Questions Part 2

Why is having a Peaceful Body important?

Why? Why all of this effort at ending the war? Time spent beating the crap out of yourself, thinking that you are worthless, broken and gross is a waste of precious moments of life. We never know how many moments we get. Don’t throw them away by believing that you are anything less than amazing.

I want a life where I am awake and alive, deeply experiencing each moment and living the biggest life I can lead.  That cannot be done when I am at war with myself.

Change is possible by being kind. You can still make health and body composition changes from a place of peace, not war.  It is not complacency, I promise. Can you see or even feel the value in offering love and kindness to yourself when you stumble rather than berating and shaming yourself?  That act of kindness is like throwing a stone in a still pond, it creates a ripple way beyond losing weight. Its life altering action.

Check out the website for more information about the next up coming workshop.  Hope to see you there!!

This is a part 2 in a 4 part series exploring questions around the Peaceful Body Project – happening on 05/31/2015.Being kind to yourself ripples out

Peaceful Body Project Questions Part 1

What does it mean to have a Peaceful Body?

It means ending the war with yourself.  It means learning to believe you are worthy and whole.  It means having confidence as you walk in the world around you because you are fabulously you. You KNOW it and you BELIEVE it.

A peaceful body is not about scale weight or clothing size. My experience is that those things have nothing to do with peace with yourself. I have been small in my life and very overweight. I was miserable in both places because I wasn’t happy with me. But I do find having a peaceful body helps you more readily get to a weight/body composition that works well for you where there is balance, ease and a body that allows for things that you love to do.

Having a peaceful body means being aware and take care of the body you have. We get one body in this life and this is yours. It gets us around in this world. It is how we experience the joys and sorrows and all emotions and experiences in between. Many of us however live life from the neck up.  The awareness and care of our peaceful bodies happens mindfully through:

  • being aware of how it feels – when you are just hanging out, when you are hungry, when you are upset, when you are happy – life is experienced by all of you – not just from the neck up
  • spending time with it in meditation
  • caring for it through cleaning and grooming
  • checking it out in the mirror with shining love and awareness (even on the parts that in the past may have made you wince).

Moving from a place of peace, love and kindness allows for such a better journey, a better life than self-hatred and disgust.  Check out the website for more information about the next up coming workshop.  Hope to see you there!!


This is a part 1 in a 4 part series exploring questions around the Peaceful Body Project – happening on 05/31/2015.