Recently I did an interview for a podcast that is coming out at the beginning of2015 . During that interview I was reminded of the pain/discomfort I went through when I finally declared that I was done chasing a visible six pack. Each year for years, I would declare that this year for SURE would be my year of abs! The more I chased it the more miserable I was and the further away I got.
I had a coach of mine ask me what I thought six pack abs were going to give me. That is the million dollar question – what about my life was going to change when I got “there”? Would people love me more? Would life be smooth and blissful? Would I love ME more? The answer is No. I would still be me just with less body fat.
Huh. That doesn’t feel like what I wanted. I wanted to be new, different, better.
In letting go of that goal, with a bit of deeper understanding, there was relief and fear. I felt like in sharing with people that while I was letting that goal go that I needed to assure THEM (myself too maybe??!) that it didn’t mean that I was going to be sitting on the couch and eating junk food all the time. As if some how those were my two options 1) get abs or 2) be lazy and eat junk.
Our minds get binary some times – it can only be this OR that. The reality is there are a whole spectrum of options out there. I love moving in ways that bring me joy. I love who I am and my body and have a deep desire to take care of me so that I can be who I want to be in life and hopefully positively impact the lives of those around me. When you love something you take care of it.
It took me a while to let go of that fear and assure myself that I was ok. I also needed to be honest with myself about what I was REALLY wanting – love, growth, connection, passion and peace and I can have that NOW. I don’t have to wait until what ever X is that I am waiting for.
Love your life.
Love who you are.