When I was very young, there was a woman in my church who was a children’s group leader and friends with my parents. For a period of time in my life, I saw her frequently. She irritated me when I was little for the strangest reason. She told every one she loved them all the time. Every interaction. Every hello and good bye. All the time. Every one I saw her interact with. It felt excessive, weird and uncomfortable to me at the time. I come from an affectionate and loving family and it still felt like a lot – or at least a lot coming from some one who I wasn’t “friends” with or who was family.
Looking back on it, I respect her style. Why not tell people you love them all the time if you feel it? I gush on my friends and family all the time. I may not say I love you (all though to many of them I do) but I damn well want them to know as often as possible that I am grateful to have them in my life and I treasure what ever time I get with them. Its not an inauthentic gushing, its a true “I-feel-this-big-in-my-heart” outpouring. I haven’t tried it with strangers yet. 😀
I heard a story about Sam Dancer (if you don’t know who he is look him up – he is all about LOVE) and how he calls 5 random people on his phone every day and says “I can’t talk right now but I wanted to let you know that I love you.” Then he hangs up. I LOVE THAT SO MUCH. What bravery, what energy, what passion all done in love.
A few years ago, I was able to have the opportunity to go to a leadership coaching retreat. It was here I spent time working on clearly determining my purpose and contribution to others and figuring out who I was at my most powerful. Out of this exercise came a phrase that I touch on as frequently as I remember to:
Joyously and authentically being love for myself and others.
Its my why. Its my meaning. Its what I am here to do. <3
When I am fulfilling this role, when I am living from and in this space, I am happy. I touch the joy of being truly alive.
It is why I work at making my husband, daughter, family and friends feel love and cared for. It is why I coach so I can support and encourage others to be their best selves. Its why the Peaceful Body Project is important to me as I want others to have peace and love who they are. It is why I started ZenBarbell. It is why I talk all the time about loving who you are and I will do my damnedest to model that and love you for you until you are ready to do it for yourself. It is why I lift weights because it is love for myself. Its why I have worked so hard at fixing my relationship with myself, my body and my food because its love for me. Its why I have adventures, why I try and remember there are no rules, why I work on non-judgement, why I follow where the passion and energy take me, why I want to be mindful and present, why feel the fear and do it anyway, why try and be open and authentic in every interaction.
Its love, baby.
I want all my actions and motivations to come from love. Sometimes I nail it, other times I fail miserably. I am learning. Thankfully, I get many opportunities to practice.
Do you know your why? Your meaning? The thing that makes you feel fully alive? I would love to know about it.