What peace with food looks like
This is the third in a series about my journey with food. This post covers where I am today and what peace with food feels like.
Right now, my relationship with food is much more peaceful. My relationship with MYSELF is much more peaceful. Honestly, you cannot have one with out the other. I am convinced that we are a mess with our food and bodies because we are a mess with ourselves. You can’t love who you are and then torture yourself with food. You can’t eat in lovely ways when if you think you are disgusting, lazy, and gross.
I am amazed that I can say that I have peace. It is something that I never thought I would be able to say or have. Food has been the focus of so much torture, depression, anger, anxiety and stress. I never thought it would be peaceful. My journey allowed me to be here. My seeking a better way allowed for me to be here. Practicing again and again (x1000s of time) allowed for me to arrive here.
So with practice (meaning I don’t get it “right” 100% of the time), I eat what my body wants when I am hungry, feel when I feel when I don’t. When I started dealing with my emotions and thoughts, my compulsive eating diminished greatly. When I fueled myself regularly and focused abundance in my life instead of deprivation, my bingeing stopped. There was no need for it. I learned that could meet my needs in other ways and the food I wanted was always available if I wanted it. For me, there are no food rules. All foods are permitted as I don’t have an allergies or health conditions that would dictate otherwise. The removal for forbidden-ness took away the power of sneaking food, of compulsive eating. My goals now are to fuel for my life and to savor and enjoy what I am eating.
The one big NO I have around food and drink is to not allow myself to over consume to the point where I don’t feel good. I don’t want food making me feel miserable. That is not peaceful or comfortable. It is not being kind to myself.
Thanks to flexible dieting, I better understand the caloric needs of my body. I understand what maintenance looks like, what gaining looks like and what a deficit looks like. There is no off plan or on plan for me. There is no being crazy restrictive and eliminating certain foods out of my diet. Its a matter of a few more or less calories in my day. This information helped me figure out what calories are important to me and which are not. I guess this is the moderation thing that every one is talking about now. 🙂
I wanted to share all of this because I know so many people struggle with food, with themselves. I never thought there was a way through. I want to tell you that there is. It involves lots of learning and practice and being kind to yourself. Peace is possible.