So your workout made you cry….now what

As a coach and a regular worker-outer, I have seen and experienced my fair share of tears and deep disappointment post work out.

  • It shouldn’t feel this hard.  (Really? Why?)
  • I wanted to quit the whole time. (But you didn’t.)
  • I didn’t do what I wanted. (But you did SOMETHING, doesn’t that account for anything?)
  • I can’t get (insert skill that you are wanting to have) right yet!!  (Oh I am sorry, Have you been doing (pull ups, handstands, olympic lifts, double unders, etc)  for years now and you don’t have them or did you just starting trying it a little bit ago so you are still practicing?)

Any of that seem familiar?

I have heard the saying that our minds are teflon for good experiences and velcro for bad.

On those workouts that just feel like shit for some reason and we are left feeling disappointed, teary, down on who we are – all we feel is the bad.  We don’t acknowledge the good.

As I see it you have two options:

1) Beat the crap out of your self for not being good at anything – for being too out of shape, not strong enough, not fast enough, not whatever enough.  Wallow in it.


2) Take a deep breath. Acknowledge that you had expectations of this workout and it didn’t go as planned. Acknowledge that EVERY ONE has good and bad training days and it is no assessment on you as a person.

Then take ANOTHER deep breath. Start thinking about what went right and what you are grateful for in this moment.  Here are some hints that might help you out:

    • You made it THROUGH the workout (or maybe you quit. Who cares! You came in a tried something!)
    • Your body allowed you to move and be active today.  (Meaning you are alive another day and you are not bedridden).
    • You are breathing.
    • You are thinking.
    • Your muscles are responding.
    • Your joints are working (or at least maybe many of them!)
    • You are ALIVE for another day to do things that you love to do…like exist and lift heavy shit.

Change your perspective. Love who you are. Love your training – even the hard, boring, “it should be different” days.